Asking for help can be embarrassing, uncomfortable, and maybe even difficult. Even so, we all, at some point, need to. When we do, what does that help look like? What happens when it seems like no help is around or coming? What then?
Barriers
There is a lot of cultural bias against asking for help: Only the strong survive. God helps those who help themselves. Tough it out. You don’t really need help.
These sentiments, sadly, are often not really ‘helpful’. Asking for help means being vulnerable and being honest. Surprisingly, whether small or large, asking allows someone else to be of service to us. It gives both people a chance to grow, to share.
Beyond cultural barriers, we can also feel lost and alone; at those times, it is extra hard to ask. We feel despair, we feel worry, we fear that maybe help simply isn’t there for us.
How do we recognize the barriers?
For me, recently understanding I needed help was by recognizing that I could not do what I wanted; things simply did not work as they should, and I could not solve it or understand it, no matter how much I thought about different ideas. For you, it could be frustration, hurt, anger, despair. All those feelings come with helplessness, with challenges that are too much for us – in that moment. It’s important to also remember, needing help in a specific moment doesn’t make you helpless everywhere, or for everything.
So, what happens when we ask for help? How do we see the help?
Asking and Receiving
We often may think the help we need is specific to the situation, and sometimes, it is that simple: Please reach that for me, I’m not tall enough; please lend me a hand to get up after falling.
Because we learn help this way, when the need is more complex, we still may think we know what help to ask for: e.g. I need money. But, help from Spirit rarely works that simply.
Spirit knows you asked for money because you need it to solve something else, and so will seek to solve the situation directly, giving you what you truly need. However, when you are fixated on the money request, you can miss, or delay, help that comes in a different way.
The focus on a specific outcome will also create a barrier to help, because Spirit will not interfere and will not step in to adjust situations arising from your choices (or asks) without your permission. This is out of respect for you, for your choice of will, learning, and decisions.
What Help Looks Like
Can you receive your specific ask? Certainly – and the more simple the choices, the more likely it can happen. But, will it actually solve your need? You may think that having a lot of money (recently, US lottery prizes reached a billion US dollars) would ‘solve’ problems, but Spirit knows that the massive changes to your life, to your family, to your friends that comes with such an amount, is much greater than just the money. You may find that much money ultimately may actually cause you MORE problems than it solves.
Being open, asking for “this or better”; or even being honest and saying “I am not sure what I need, but I know I need help” is how you open the gates of love and support.
Permission to Ask for Help
Remember, Spirit can only step in when you ask. Being open in your request frees Spirit to solve creatively and elegantly. You will get what you need, always, but when you ask openly and freely, the help will also solve the longer term and smooth out the path ahead.
Even when the challenge is complex, asking openly and directly for help is never complex. And, because we are always supported, loved, and protected — by our loved ones, by our protector guides, by our life guides, by God — help is always there for us.
Right now, there is a lot going on in all our lives, our situations, and our environment that is complex, challenging, and disorderly. While all this is uncomfortable, you may want to believe you can manage, regardless. But, you don’t have to do this alone. Help is here, and waiting, for you to just ask.
If you need help and guidance, please connect with me.
Love, and until next time
